Life can get rough.
When we hit rough patches in life, we can feel like we might spin out of control. Fear of the unknown can grip you and affect you in ways you never imagined. You could spend many sleepless nights wrestling with regret, question your ability to make decisions, and be anxious because you do not know how to get your life back. You owe it to yourself and the people who love you to try to pull yourself together quickly, before any more damage happens.
A simple answer
I have an answer, something you should try…it is simple. Take action. Action displaces fear. Find the next right step for yourself and take it. It is OK to not have the whole map available right now. One step, one positive action.
Choose the things you want to do and become, and find some actions you can take right now toward those things. I found it helpful to list out all the characteristics that you believe a good person has.
I want to be a good person again…here is my simple list of good people values and some actions I can take:
1) Good people have discipline. They do what they need to do to meet their obligations.
I will follow my daily practices to become stronger, physically, mentally and spiritually.
I will do my work to the best of my ability
2) Good people are trustworthy. They do what they say they are going to do. They do not harm other people.
I will make promises slowly or not at all, but keep them when made.
I will assess what I am about to do to determine if it hurts someone first.
3) Good people are compassionate
I have felt pain and know how it can affect our behavior.
I will be kind to others because I do not know what they are going through.
I will be compassionate to myself and forgive my own shortcomings.
4) Good people do not make themselves useless to others or violate their values by giving too much of themselves and becoming unhealthy.
I will not lose my daily practice for health just because someone has a fake emergency.
I will excuse myself when I am tired so that I do not get triggered while tired into saying or doing something unkind.
5) Good people serve others.
Almost everything I have enjoyed doing in my career and personal life has been about helping others to do something, improve something, or assist someone who needs help. That is why I got into consulting. It is why I help non profits do their work better by doing projects with my friends to help those organizations.
6) Good people do not stop others from following their values or dreams
You can go after what you want in life…whatever that is. But I will not prevent someone else from following their path.
This list might change if I think about it more…
Please post any other qualities describe good people!
Thanks for reading!